Just as the limits of your language will limit your world, what you say to others and yourself limits your success in your job search.  The job search can be the toughest jobs you will ever have, don’t believe me?  Ask around.

Each week I listen to the limiting language of those looking for a job.  “No postings in my field”… “No one is hiring” … “I am overqualified” … “I am too old”… “Too young” … “too experienced”… and the list goes on.   Go ahead, admit it , you are saying some of these things aloud or at least thinking them.

Pause and think about if you are using this language.  If so, you will begin to believe it, or those around you will begin to believe it.  Your thinking and your language dictate how you think and shares with others how you think.  Do you want others to think you are “too old”?

What message are you sending with your language?

Does your language encourage others to think of you in terms of positive results, your desired income, the job you want?

If not, review your language.  Your language is a choice.

Does your choice and what you say help you move forward, or is it helping to maintain the status quo?

What language are you using that limits your search or your brand?

As I listened, I recalled a post from Meg Guiseppi, “Can You Work Your Passion in a Lousy Executive Job Market?” Meg shared the three points, from Curt Rosengren’s article in the US News & World Report article, “Does Having Passion for Your Work Even Matter?” – the point, here is that why passion is such an important investment for your career, was playing out before my eyes and why it is important to your job search as well.

It still surprises me that so many people, elect not to spend a little time to discover or think about what they have passion for and find a way to incorporate that passion within a search to land their next job.

For years I have shared, “Do what you love, money follows”.   To do that you do need to discover what you have passion for and how that aligns with your purpose and goals.

A job search is always challenging.  Work and life will always include bumps in the road.  When you know your purpose, what makes you unique and different, what brings you joy, what you want to do, it is much easier to find and once you are working, it make your career much more fulfilling.

Can you answer the questions?  What do you want to do?

Have you taken time to explore what makes you happy?

What excites you?  What matters to you?

What makes you get up in the morning or stay up late?

What is stopping you from spending the time right now to reconnect with your passions or to answer these questions?

Why are you afraid to do some soul-searching?

As you know, I enjoy learning and sharing what others share with me.  This week I want to share a post from City Sylvester.

On June 18 City Sylvester posted “Personal Branding Stars of the Week!” where he shared insightful wisdom from six other inspiring people.  Read and enjoy!

Prepare your references: Be sure your references have a copy of your résumé and keep your references posted on your job search progress. After each interview that moves forward schedule a call with your references to review the position, your background and why the job is a great fit for you and what you can offer to the position.  Don’t forget to review how your past accomplishments demonstrate what you are going to do for your next employer.

Help your references connect: Find out who will call your reference and provide that information to your references.  If you reference are hard to reach, help with the scheduling if needed, suggest the best times and best methods to connect your references.

Follow up: It is critical to follow up with your references to see how the conversation went.  What should you be aware of, did the employer have concerns or are there red flags, points, or items you should know about, affirm or address with your future employer.

Thank your references: Drop a personal note in the mail to each of your references to say thanks for their help, and the time they invested in you and your career.  You would be surprised how many people forget to say “Thank You” to a reference.  Don’t forget to also let your references know when you land and start a new job.

Believe it or not your references can tip the scale in your favor or break the deal ensuring someone else is the finalist for the job you want.

What additional suggestions do you have to prepare your references?

The candidate had only listed the LinkedIn Public Profile address for each of his references and when called for detailed contact information the candidate responded with “I suggest you go to LinkedIn read all my great recommendations, then if you feel you still need to talk to my references Send InMail and find out if they have time to talk to you, or check with your trusted connections and see you can introduce you to my references.  I look forward to reviewing your offer soon …”, then the call ended was a pleasant good-bye.

Somewhat taken aback by the response from the candidate, my former client had paused to ask himself several questions.   Was he behind the times in how LinkedIn was being used?  Was this candidate just a poor match for the job and the organization with this approach?  Should he invest time in checking the references of this candidate?

What do you think?

How does this differ from your approach?

It’s time to be clear about what networking is REALLY all about. To do that first let’s look at what networking is NOT.

It is not about asking people you don’t know, don’t want to know, and don’t care about for a JOB!

It is not about being slick and sleazy to get someone to take your résumé to their Boss, HR Manager or someone else in their company or finding the name and number of the one person you can “sell” to get a job.

It is not about going to meetings with a goal of grabbing a bunch of business cards so you have more people to “Tweet”, add to your LinkedIn contact list, or promise to email leads from your favorite job board, or call to talk about yourself, how great you are and your job search woes.

It is not about expecting someone to help you find a job or a new client!

It is not about showing up to an event, listening to a speaker, eating and drinking, dropping a business card in the basket for a free gift, then leaving.

Okay, if networking is not about these things, what is networking REALLY about – it is about building relationships!

That is not rocket science and you have heard it before reading it here.  Why is this so tough?  First, when you are without a job, you may feel needy or unsure of your value.  If you are new to networking or rebuilding a network, you may be asking “why would someone want to build a relationship with me”, “how can I help”, “I have no extra money”, or “what can I offer”, etc.  STOP IT!

People build relationships, offer referrals, leads, share “insider information” and help people they know, people they like and people they trust.  Think about the first day of school, you were in a room full of other kids, most of whom you did not know.  You did not yet know if you liked them, and did not know if you could trust them.

By the end of the school year, you had some type of relationship with each student in your class.  You might define those relationships as the person in my first grade class, the “kid in the back of the room-name unknown”, the “know-it-all” in my first grade class, my classmate (someone, you knew, liked, trusted but not a best buddy), your buddies, your friends, your best friend, the people you have known since first grade and stay in touch with or still have a relationship.  You had different relationships with each member of the class. Those long term relationships with people who know you, like you, and trust you are “your network”.

Networking is about building long term relationships with people who know you, like you, and trust you.  Those people become your connectors, people who can attest to who you are, what you do and people who are your advocates and business partners.  Those people are “your network”.

Networking is about building long term relationships with people who know you, like you, and trust you and building long term relationships with people you know, you like you, you trust.  Your network allows you to be an advocate for others and allows others to an advocate for you.

Networking is about getting to know people and helping people, and connecting people in your network with each other. The beauty of doing so is that those in your network will get to know you, like you, trust you and help you connect with others.

How many people are in your network?

How many people in your network are you an advocate?

How many people have you helped this week?

If you belong to a professional or trade associations, clubs or community organizations, your professional network is robust and you stay connected to your network, I bet you said yes. 

If you said NO, you may have been working hard with little or no time to network.  If you had a long commute, worked long hours, worked “head down, tail up”, were engrossed in family, and day to day life without much time to nurture your professional network, you may need to rebuild your network.  Or the truth is maybe you don’t like networking and are just gripped with fear about reaching out to build a network.

Either way, building, rebuilding, and nurturing a network does not need to take tons of time, money or energy.  It does require doing some basics each week and if you are beginning or rebuilding a network it will take preparation, reflection time and some time to determine what is the best way for you to network and where to network. 

There are no “magic bullets” nor is there a “one size fits all” method that works for everyone.  There are basics everyone needs to master.

Networking is about talking, connecting, meeting, and helping people.  If you this terrifies you, know you are not alone.  But if you know you need to network and you had decided to network, you must overcome the fear or at least find ways to deal with the fear until you overcome it to network successfully.

Do your homework and get prepared to network.  Decide why you want to network, what you have of value to offer those you meet, and how you can help those you meet. 

Why is it important for you to build or rebuild your network?

What value do you offer your network?

How are you willing to help those in your network?

Maybe you are thinking – I could spend the same time at home on the computer, telephone, or sending out resumes and get the same results or why would I want to go meet a bunch of other people many like me looking for work or peddling their wares.  Those thoughts may be your first problem.

There are hundreds of networking groups, professional or trade associations that meet weekly, bi-weekly, monthly or quarterly within the United States.  Most of these groups are designed to help you meet people, make connections, and contribute to others.

If you are new to networking you may question the benefits of connecting regularly with other open minded business people in the same room.  Getting hired and being successful in business is as much about “who knows you” as it is about “who and what you know”.

There is magic in the building relationships and obtaining referrals from “Your Network”.  Yes it does help your job search.  Network referrals are the most commonly reported way to find a job.

Employers report referrals make up 26.7% of all external new hires compared to 13.2% of hires attributed to Job Boards according to CareerXRoads 9^th Annual Sources of Hire Study (February 2010).  The numbers speak for themselves.

Networking is one of the fastest, easiest ways to develop business relationships, get referrals and tap into the 70% to 80% of available jobs that are not advertised.  Networking works!

In just a few days I will have been involved in a coordinating a weekly networking group for professionals for five years.  The results, career success stories and lasting relationships are amazing.

Do you want to learn how to make networking work for your job search?

Check back to celebrate five years of “NfP” success I will share the best of the best tips to help you find a group, be prepare to network and make networking work for you.

Hope you had a great two weeks!

The quote above is one I shared this week with a super person.  A talented professional, highly skilled and in very unique position, yet stuck.

Being stuck happens.  Getting angry happens.  However it is always a choice that keeps you stuck or angry.

I know.  I did it many years ago and the cost was very high.  Staying angry and staying stuck for a long time about the end of a job was a BIG WASTE.   I wasted energy, time, my talent, it impacted my health and it hurt others.

Any time you are attempting to sort out events or things that made you angry use caution.  You may not have access to all the information or the facts, even when you think you do.  It is easy to “fill in the blanks” and “tell yourself a story”.

Be careful about the story you tell yourself as you fill in the blanks and “Write injuries in sand…” especially about the people and events that cause you injury.  Wind, rain, and many other factors can and do move sand around easily!

Think of a sandcastle at the beach.  One minute it adorns the landscape, then a wave comes in and it is gone.

In business, organizations can and do make decisions for thousands of reasons, and sometimes those decisions are poorly planned, communicated, or executed.  The outcome of some decisions will be  dramatic and immediate and then the  outcome of other decisions may take months or years to be seen or may have little or no impact at all.

When an organization decides to make a change, to reduce staff, change job functions or duties of staff, layoff staff, or terminate one or many ~ PEOPLE are impacted.  Each person in the organization decides what they will do with the change.

Some professionals see the end of a job is a powerful force that moves them forward at once to the next great adventure.  Others see the blow is dramatic, career ending and the end of a job stops them in their tracks.

In lieu of a viewing the situation as a business decision and moving on, some professionals become focused on the hurt or emotion they feel.  They write the “hurt” of losing a job in marble and review the “hurt” over and over.

They focus on the “hurt”.  They etch the “hurt” in marble and then they carry the big piece of marble around with them to help tell the story.    They tell themselves the “bad” the story over and over.  Then they freely share the “story” and “negative energy” with all who will listen.

Do you write messages in sand or marble?   Does it matter?

An unexpected career bump can cause as much of an economic crisis to you, your family, your plans, goals, and retirement, as the grounding of flights has to the British and European economy.  The experts estimated the grounding of flights would be £520 million ($800 million) impact to the airline industry alone by April 18.   In our global economy, this event has impacted air travel, the Boston Marathon, the price of flowers and vegetables and much more.   Was this a totally unexpected event?    

It is my view the signs were there that something was up with the volcano.  Day to day most of the world does not have what is up with a volcano in Iceland on the radar screen.  However, both recent events and the fact that Iceland is known for its glaciers and volcanic landscape provide information that this was not a totally unexpected event.  

Could this volcano continue sending ash into the air for 14 or more months or longer?  It happened before.  Like geophysicists who monitor what’s up with the Earth; top talent monitors what’s up in their business, operation and career, and they understand what the impact could be if an event caused a 14-month change to their revenue stream, aka their paycheck.

Knowing what is going on, requires an awareness and willingness to see the signs that tell you things are up in business that can impact you and your job.   For most, focus on career comes after all the other stuff is done.  What would happen to your career if it was derailed for 14 months? 

As with the volcano eruption, if you ignore or unaware of the signs around you; you get surprised!  Being aware and having a plan can help you avoid or lessen the impact of a sudden event that could derail or destroy your career. 

You can leverage your talent and be ready.  What if you walk in one day and receive a pink slip due to a 5% reduction of the workforce?  What if your job is changed to a new title or function that required you to do something that you don’t want to do for the next five, or more years even for the same money and the same earnings potential you have now?

Your career need not die, or change in a direction you will be unhappy with.  Nor should your bank account be destroyed by a business change, new boss, or some other event on the scale of volcanic eruption.     

Nature and business can be unpredictable.  Predicting volcanic eruption is not my area of expertise, career management is, and working with top talent to manage the career they want is not hard.  The tools are not complex nor are you dealing with factors as unpredictable as figuring out if a volcano will ground planes and changes lives forever. 

Top talent does not overlook, fail to monitor and study trends, or “see” what changes are in the environment.  Top talent does possible scenario planning. 

Scientists strive to understand what does and could happen when the Earth’s plates move.  Do you do this for your career?

For so many people, what’s up in the business, industry and the impact on their job is out of sight and out of mind.  They are clueless as to the signs of what is going on around them.  Even for top talent, it is easy to put your head down, go to work, focus on the day to day operation and never look up. 

The impact of “head down, tail up” working and never looking at the “radar screen” all too often results in being surprised by an unexpected event.  It also results in the misdirected view that your career path and your earnings are unpredictable and out of your ability to influence. 

What can you do to avoid this?  Understand your business, industry, and your job. Have an ongoing plan to accelerate your career and continually move it forward. 

Do these  five basics 1) stay aware of changing trends, 2) maintain contact with your network, 3) make your goals known, 4) have a plan to achieve your goals, and 5) update your résumé every 90 days. 

Simply executing on these basics will blunt the impact of an unseen or unpredictable event that might happen.   Top talent does not get caught “flat footed” time and time again.

What’s going on around you?  Have you allowed your busy life to take the place of staying focused on your career goals? 

Top talent does not stay on top by becoming overly focused on the day to day operations, and short term goals at the expense of long term goals, and the bigger view.  You know it is easy to waste time on meaningless stuff and stop doing the basics. 

Fix it now, before the eruption. Have a plan, execution the basics of the plan, review your progress, and as needed update to the plan.

What are you doing to accelerate your search or your career?  What will you do this week to lessen the impact to your career when a volcano does erupt?