{"id":727,"date":"2011-11-15T05:16:05","date_gmt":"2011-11-15T10:16:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/accelerateyoursearchnow.com\/blog\/?p=727"},"modified":"2011-11-12T12:34:07","modified_gmt":"2011-11-12T17:34:07","slug":"what-are-you-afraid-of-doing-or-saying-in-an-interview","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/accelerateyoursearchnow.com\/blog\/2011\/11\/what-are-you-afraid-of-doing-or-saying-in-an-interview\/","title":{"rendered":"What are you afraid of doing or saying in an interview?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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People are often afraid of something new.\u00a0 You might be afraid because interviewing is out of you comfort zone, or had a bad experience, or have no experience interviewing.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Fear does pop up for all of us from time to time \u2013 at least if you are like me and honest with yourself. I am afraid of different things, usually for me it is either something new or something I do really don\u2019t have much experience or practice doing.\u00a0 Fear does pop up in my life.\u00a0 Does it in yours?\u00a0 I have discovered most of people I know don’t share what they are afraid easily.\u00a0 Do you?<\/p>\n

On Friday, I was with a group of great and talented people, discussing interviewing and we did honestly talked a bit about interview fears.\u00a0 Why, because the talent in the room understood that if the fear remained it would hold them back.\u00a0<\/p>\n

You know what I mean \u2013 don\u2019t you? \u00a0<\/p>\n

It is like when you were a kid and you were afraid there was something under the bed, outside, or in the closet.\u00a0 As soon as you shared the fear with someone you trusted like a parent, friend, brother or sister \u2013 what happened?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Well for me, I only shared those fears with trusted people, who would not judge me for the fear, because to me that was as scary as the fear.\u00a0 What I learned was if I picked people I trusted, they would then help me explore my fear.\u00a0<\/p>\n

I usually I discovered with help and guidance that my fear was \u201cFalse Evidence Appearing Real\u201d.\u00a0 Like the noise I heard was not evidence of something under the bed that would harm me, but the bedcovers brushing the floor when I moved in bed.<\/p>\n

What I learned by sharing my fear, was to reduce the fear to a concern.\u00a0 Once I did that then I could discover what the concern really was and how to address the concern.\u00a0<\/p>\n

If you have interview fears, try this. What is your interview concern?\u00a0 How can you address it?<\/p>\n

A common concern I hear often is what if the interviewer doesn\u2019t like me.\u00a0 Reduce the fear to a concern and take action to address the concern.<\/p>\n

Need a tip for this fear?\u00a0 Here is mine – like the interviewer first!\u00a0<\/p>\n

Here is how in simple steps:<\/p>\n

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  1. As soon as you meet the interviewer, notice something about him\/her you like.\u00a0 It could be a tie, shoes, smile, anything.\u00a0<\/li>\n
  2. Hold the thought of what you like in your mind for 30 to 60 seconds.<\/li>\n
  3. Got it. Say to yourself (doing this aloud might work, but works better to yourself)\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI like John\u2019s <use his\/her name> smile <insert what you like> he is very friendly <insert why you like whatever you like>.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0<\/li>\n
  4. Now, repeat the message and make eye contact.\u00a0 \u201cI like John\u2019s smile, he is very friendly.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0<\/li>\n
  5. Then let the thought go.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    When you like the interviewer in some way first, think about it and then let the thought go, you have taken action, moved your fear to a concern, and addressed the concern.\u00a0 From fear, to concern, to action.\u00a0<\/p>\n

    Have a question about interviewing?\u00a0Sign up and join me on the next Q & A call, ask your question and get an answer.<\/p>\n

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    Have a comment or thought?\u00a0 Post it below.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    People are often afraid of something new.\u00a0 You might be afraid because interviewing is out of you comfort zone, or had a bad experience, or have no experience interviewing.\u00a0 Fear does pop up for all of us from time to time \u2013 at least if you are like me and honest with yourself. I am […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[26,44],"tags":[37,36,10],"class_list":["post-727","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-action-tips","category-job-search-2","tag-interviewing","tag-job-interviews","tag-job-search"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/accelerateyoursearchnow.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/727","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/accelerateyoursearchnow.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/accelerateyoursearchnow.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/accelerateyoursearchnow.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/accelerateyoursearchnow.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=727"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/accelerateyoursearchnow.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/727\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/accelerateyoursearchnow.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=727"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/accelerateyoursearchnow.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=727"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/accelerateyoursearchnow.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=727"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}