“Write injuries in sand, kindnesses in marble.” ~ French Proverb
Hope you had a great two weeks!
The quote above is one I shared this week with a super person. A talented professional, highly skilled and in very unique position, yet stuck.
Being stuck happens. Getting angry happens. However it is always a choice that keeps you stuck or angry.
I know. I did it many years ago and the cost was very high. Staying angry and staying stuck for a long time about the end of a job was a BIG WASTE. I wasted energy, time, my talent, it impacted my health and it hurt others.
Any time you are attempting to sort out events or things that made you angry use caution. You may not have access to all the information or the facts, even when you think you do. It is easy to “fill in the blanks” and “tell yourself a story”.
Be careful about the story you tell yourself as you fill in the blanks and “Write injuries in sand…” especially about the people and events that cause you injury. Wind, rain, and many other factors can and do move sand around easily!
Think of a sandcastle at the beach. One minute it adorns the landscape, then a wave comes in and it is gone.
In business, organizations can and do make decisions for thousands of reasons, and sometimes those decisions are poorly planned, communicated, or executed. The outcome of some decisions will be dramatic and immediate and then the outcome of other decisions may take months or years to be seen or may have little or no impact at all.
When an organization decides to make a change, to reduce staff, change job functions or duties of staff, layoff staff, or terminate one or many ~ PEOPLE are impacted. Each person in the organization decides what they will do with the change.
Some professionals see the end of a job is a powerful force that moves them forward at once to the next great adventure. Others see the blow is dramatic, career ending and the end of a job stops them in their tracks.
In lieu of a viewing the situation as a business decision and moving on, some professionals become focused on the hurt or emotion they feel. They write the “hurt” of losing a job in marble and review the “hurt” over and over.
They focus on the “hurt”. They etch the “hurt” in marble and then they carry the big piece of marble around with them to help tell the story. They tell themselves the “bad” the story over and over. Then they freely share the “story” and “negative energy” with all who will listen.
Do you write messages in sand or marble? Does it matter?
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