Last week, I shared how one experience created many limitations for me over the years in both my career and in business. I allowed the past to limit my future.
For a long time, I did not stop to think, design and intentionally review the opportunities presented to me. And, unfortunately, I did not realize it or know why. Years later, I have come to understand my behavior and spot it in a second! Now, I do my best to pause in lieu of reacting immediately.
Here is the story that created my limiting beliefs:
It was my first solo sailing trip after purchasing my sailboat. I had learned how to sail, purchased the boat and went out alone on a great summer day. Unfortunately, I opened my sails too fast and very quickly the wind caught the main sail. The wind shifted the boat and dumped me in the water. I am a good swimmer and almost fearless in the water. Yet, on that day, the wind was strong and the water cold. I felt the sting to my confidence of being ill prepared for a brief minute.
This sting momentarily rattled my confidence and tested my knowledge. A voice in my head said, “You don’t know enough to do this alone.” That voice was scary and loud.
A moment later, I climbed back aboard the boat and I immediately knew I could correct for the error I made — so I did. I tried again and enjoyed sailing for another couple of hours. I was happy, had fun and went home to share the events of the day.
As I shared my adventure with others, they added their voices of concern to the little voice in my head that kept repeating, “You don’t know enough to do this alone.” Over time the voice in my head, and the voices of others, grew to sound like a bold, robust choir! I started to believe that perhaps the others knew better than I did. What if they were right? What if I did take too many risks?
In the moment that I lifted my head out of the water that day and the cold wind stung my face I began to write the ending to a story that would evolve and limit my opportunities for many years. My story that resulted in quick “NO’s” kept telling me, “Don’t be too fearless. Don’t be too courageous. Don’t risk too much.”
Now when that choir shows up like a cold wind, instead of saying “NO” immediately, I use it to offer encouragement to myself to pause and assess each opportunity. When that sailing experience flashes through my mind, I see it as an opportunity to design, craft and set an intention for each opportunity before me. Rather than being a limitation, as it initially was, it is now helpful.
What story do you tell yourself that limits your opportunities?
What story or stories do you need to review?
If you are a courageous, do-it-yourself person, much like me, you may be putting off seeking help and support. I can tell you I did not learn to turn off the choir and write new endings without help.
Just like learning to sail, building a career or a business are adventures that are much more fun and profitable when they are not solo adventures. I sought out mentors, coaches and many others to help me. Who is helping you rewrite your “stories?” Who is helping you build and transform your career?
If you are ready for a career, business, or life experience that will transform your work and create an amazing new career filled with fun and many opportunities, let’s talk.
