Impressions and judgments occur. And, yes, I think they matter.
People take in information quickly and, just as quickly, use the data to make judgments about what they see and hear. Presto! A first impression of you is produced. That first impression sticks and all other things someone learns about you is layered on top of that first impression.
In early January an “old” friend came to visit. We have known each other for nearly 30 years; yet don’t see each other often. During her visit she shared the story of how we first met to her friend. As my old friend described our first meeting in great detail, I wanted to hide.
Why? I didn’t make such a great first impression. Even though we didn’t get off on the right foot, it all worked out. Still, the story was a BIG reminder to me of the importance of first impressions. Especially when the person listening to the story replied, “After all that, I am surprised you have been friends for so many years.” Ouch.
Here are a few tips to help you distinguish yourself in a positive manner — whether during your job search or any other time you need to make a good first impression:
Be Enthusiastic.
Enthusiasm is contagious. Thoughtful questions, openness and the desire to engage are viewed as positive interactions.
Be Professional.
Professionalism is demonstrated by how you communicate with others, how you carry yourself and in your overall appearance. A sincere attitude, and a look that matches, instills respect and trust.
Be Responsible and Accountable.
A job search (and life!) has good days and bad days. If there are things you need to do, get them done. Blaming outside factors (the economy, a previous boss, the weather, family duties or traffic) for preventing you from doing a task does not fly. Drop the excuses. Stuff happens. It is how you handle the “stuff” that leaves an impression.
As the saying goes, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression.” Make the most of every opportunity. The first connection with someone new is the foundation for all future interactions. Do everything in your power to connect and make a powerful first impression.
Have an amazing week.
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I love the distinction between responsible and accountable. I’ve used it often with my kids when I assign chores: A “Responsibility” is to ‘do the dishes’ – but the second -bigger level is ‘Accountability’ – I want them to be ‘responsible for a clean kitchen that includes countertops, tabletops and floors.’ The entire thing changes when you are ‘accountable’ and live your life that way vs. just responsible.
Oh my goodness, Cindy, I always get so stressed when thinking about making a first impression – well, let me clarify. Oddly enough, when I’m in the office with a new client, I don’t feel nervous at all. I know that my professionalism has likely already resonated with my client on a certain level in order for them to book their appointment. But – networking events and gatherings??? Oh my goodness do I get anxious. I will keep these 4 points in mind for the next gathering! 🙂
I think enthusiasm is so important as it makes people feel significant and demonstrates confidence and interest!
Thank you for this post, Cindy – all 4 tips are great.
I would add two more:
Be interested in another person (her/his ideas, passions, needs, kids, grandparents, hobbies, etc – you name it – all depends on setting (interview vs cook-out). But be careful not to be too intrusive. Be professional is a good guard to prevent going from interested to intrusive.
Be helpful – try to identify what help/assistance this person needs and you can provide to her/him (solve tough problem at work, suggest a good network contact, or simply by sympathetic to his/her troubles).
If you can show (and mean!) interest and empathy in the beginning of a conversation, there is a good chance to make not only a good first impression, but build a good connection/relationship.
Boris – these are wise and great additional tips. I am delighted you added these tips to help others. No doubt your sincere interest and helpful nature are just two of the many reasons your job search is moving forward at an accelerated pace. Thanks!